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Originally Posted by adam_k
I was talking to my wife recently. Trying to be as open and honest as I can about me. We got on the subject of me wanting to be with someone else. My wife has been my only sexual partner and she has had a few before me. She said she was fine with having me have sex with someone else. At first I was surprised. She used to be the jealous type and now she would let me be with someone else.
At first I was shocked, but then I felt trusted that she would be ok that I could be with someone else. She did have a couple ground rules. No disease and the sex should be safe, which I would do both of those anyway.
For me the of being with someone else is exciting. To feel someone else and learn how to pleasure them. Sarah told me sex isn't really important to her. She said it is nice, and she enjoys it but she can live without it. For me I really enjoy sex. I feel almost euphoric afterwards. I like the feeling of being touched and desired.
Is it wrong to pursue this? I've never cheated on my wife and I don't consider it cheating if she permits me to have this. I feel wrong in a way. I wouldn't want her to be with another man (a women I would be fine with), why is it ok for me to be with someone? I'm confused, but excited.
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It seems like you and your wife are communicating, which is extremely important to any relationship, but especially in an open relationship. So long you're both honest about what's happening, and okay with it, then I don't think it's wrong. Monogamy is a social construct...no reason why you should be limited by it.
Safe and disease free is important. When I've had open relationships before the rules were basically be honest, be safe, and periodically get checked.