I recently referred a friend to my T. It's been interesting seeing him through her eyes, and hearing about them kind of maneuvering, trying to get comfortable with each other. Their relationship in this beginning stage seems dramatically different than the beginning stages of my relationship with him.

Currently she's annoyed at him because he thinks certain aspects of her childhood were a bigger deal than she does. She wants to focus on different coping and behavioral skills pretty exclusively. It's interesting to me that he was pretty intensely skills focused with me in the beginning, and we slowly started getting more into the origins of my issues, whereas he is trying to get her to discuss the origins of the issues much more quickly. I'm wondering if that is because I was so intensely depressed at first that he thought I needed better coping skills before we got into the "hard" stuff.