Hello! You may feel a bit more control if you scribble down a plan. Don't fret too much over diagnosis--that's just some code professionals use.

Here's the questions for your plan.

What helps you make the most of your talents and capacities? This could be anything --- from eating the right diet, checking in with someone, listening to music, whatever.

What makes you less vulnerable? So think about stuff that builds your safety and your health, decreases your worries.

What increases your capacity to handle stress? People use different technigues to recover or gain resiliency. What works for you?

What can you do to address the risk of something going wrong? If you were in AA, you'd have your sponsor's number at hand. Who do you call when you're in trouble? What really stops the trouble when it happens?

If you can work out these questions you might not be 24/7 "in control" but you know you are doing what it takes to be okay. Is that enough? Don't fret. Most people aren't halfway there. Don't follow your plan perfectly? So what. At least you know what happened. You can update your plan.

Let us know if this works.