Hi, I'm new to this site and I was recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. It makes sense to me, but it doesn't really help and I am still looking for answers. I have a question though that I hope someone might be able to help me answer. Also, please don't judge me... :/
You see, my boyfriend recently broke up with me and it's been very, very hard. I looked up to him in sooo many ways. Generally, I saw him as a parent though and I would even call him "daddy." He made me feel protected and loved and whole inside but whenever he left I felt very anxious and would cling to him when he got back. He went along with the whole "daddy"issues thing and he even called me his "little girl." So him breaking up with me was hard. We both had issues and he enforced mine. I know this all sounds very strange, but I don't get it either. I still feel the same way about guys in that I want to find someone to be like a father to me. Growing up, my father was abusive so that may be why. But is this a normal thought process in bpd? Is it common is this disorder to treat your partner like a parent?