Telling her your feelings is not wrong. It does make you feel vunerable and scared. It is hard to be open. You were honest. Honesty will get you very far. I have been honest w/ my H about alot of things, it has costed us/me, but there are no secrets.

I understand that you are looking for support from her and that she doesn't know how to deal with emotions and such. I do not know the answer but I do hear you and I do understand what you are saying.

To be heard and understood is often half the battle. That is all I can offer is friendly ear that really does understand. I wish I could help you guys, I wish I could help me, I wish I could help me and my H. T is helping me and me&my H. Is T an option for you guys? Or an option for you alone.