...I've seen both sides of the spectrum....I had a therapist that wrote up and we both signed a contract that if I did any si, our therapy would be terminated....Well....you can probably guess what came of that....i did, therapy with him was over though we did come to work together a few years down the road...he was just getting his feet wet when he drew up the contract...didn't believe in what was going on inside of me (dissociation)....he was a changed person when I began working with him again & I guess I forgave him,though when I breached the contract, so to speak, I felt sooo abandoned.....

I am so fortunate to be working with a very compassionate, caring therapist at this point in time....she doesn't routinely ask me about si but, she doesn't have to because I know that I can tell her upfront and it will be taken in stride for what it is...an expressison of deep pain and self-hatred, and rage, and despair...and any multitude of other things that si can symbolize and means for you....she doesn't over-react but doesn't shun or shame me either...I think you should broach the subject with your therapist at the very least to gague how such information will be received...I guess I believe that there are times when realistically, an act of self-injury is the only voice you can muster...not ever an excuse to replace spoken words or written ones or painting or whatever conveys your inner emotional landscape best...not an excuse just a reality....I think a therapist should be helped to see that reality... and they are only human and in agreeance with what was previously expressed, they can't read your mind(s)......
I say give your thearapist a chance....I'd love to know the reaction you receive...
Sorry you're struggling.....Hang in & Hang on....
Take Care...
--Angie--