|
I think paying attention to the past is good, and also looking at whether what is happening now is consistent with what led you to trust the therapist in the first place, or if things have changed.
Yes--it's always a balance, isn't it? The client's past history and current reaction, with the therapist's past actions and current reactions.
and the thing I learned going back every time after disclosing to her was that it didn't change what she thought about me in the way I expected.
Provided that the relationship is functional, this is the heart of healing, isn't it? Not simply the challenging of assumptions, valuable as that is, but the honest demonstration of acceptance and respect. The challenge then becomes taking it in and being willing to believe that it is true.
|