I think there are good and bad therapists, and being a 'good' therapist doesn't automatically mean they'll be right for you.

Also, transference and cognitive distortion play their part. I knew about transference, but I still didn't see it for what it was when it happened. I remember being convinced that my therapist was horrible, I hated him and never wanted to see him again, and then feeling utter shock when I realised I was expressing feelings about someone else. If I'd posted about him that week, I wouldn't have said good things.

Also, I really thought I wanted someone who would ask me questions, determine how the session went, and give me structured things to do. Turns out that's not what I want at all. In fact, I once pushed him into giving me a structured task to do, and then went ballistic at him because I didn't want to do it!

Right now, I have nothing but good things to say about him, because I'm going through some kind of parental clinging phase with him and I want his approval. But ultimately what matters to me is not whether he makes mistakes, but whether he cares about having made them. As I was raised by people who expected me to respect them regardless of how they treated me.

You are not in anyone else's therapy sessions, and they are not in yours. Also, you are part of the process. If you wish your T did something you've read about it, why not talk to them about whatever it is, for example.