I understand the fear about trusting t and how reading these posts may not help. I guess that's the problem with the internet - as supportive as it can be, there's also a flip side to knowing too much about other people's processes. Persuamably you don't want to stop reading the posts, so it's really a case of bearing in mind that every t relationship, and of course every t, is completely different. It's like reading a story about a horrible teacher and being worried about starting college in case you get a teacher like that. Other people's bad experiences doesn't mean yours will be bad.

I find it helpful to remember that while occasionally t relationships are simply unhelpful and unhealthy, most of the time therapists are trying their best and even terrible mistakes and ruptures can provide the best healing environment possible. This goes contrary to intuition because the temptation is to leave when hurt by a t or when trust is damaged in some way. But quite often the best work comes when the client is willing to stay and work it through with the t and the t is willing to own his/her stuff and commit to the client/relationship. This is because real life is not perfect. Relationships do go wrong. Other people's issues come into play, even for therapists. The therapy relationship is by nature highly charged and painful so this is expected to happen. So even when things are going horribly wrong there is great healing to be found.

Therefore, it's worth bearing this in mind when you read posts about people's bad experiences with their therapists and how hurt they have been. Sometimes, as I know people have posted, these terrible times can be very positive.