I never said that your definition of transference is wrong but you hit it on the spot that you didn't analyze the rest of her complaints, and is very important to see that this is a pattern for her. And I never dismissed your theory of attachment either. So for some reason, why are you thinking or feeling that I'm attacking your theory?

Attachment theory actually states that "an affectional tie that one person or animal forms between him/herself and another specific one [usually the parent]--a tie that binds them together in space and endures over time." Based on the definition and her complaints, I do not think that she is attached to her therapist.

This is the reason why... she didn't say that she couldn't get away from him and she realizes what she's feeling is inappropriate. She also says that she wants to get over her feelings for her therapist. She didn't say anything about how long she's been seeing him (duration is an important aspect in being attached). You cannot be attached to someone you just met and haven't had the time to develop a trusting relationship yet.

Attachment does not translate to infatuation but transference does.
You can actually hate someone and still get attached like the relationship between Paula Abdul and Simon. You can get attached to people you work with for a long time or an object (i.e. house, memorabilia, toy, etc.)

What you are dismissing is that a patient do not realize why they have the hots for their psychotherapist. They only know that they do. Hence, my questions... "Does he remind you of someone", "Are you hoping..."

To be fair... I am very pscyhoanalytical and have a degree in the field. I cannot help her if I ignored her clues (and she provided a lot). So... I didn't just come up with transference and disagreeing with attachment theory to fail in helping her.