i dont have any real good answers. but you might look into relaxation stuff before bed. Maybe soemthing that steps you through some work to get your concerns out.. and also relaxes your body afterwards. Also everyone raves about yoga. so like i said.. i dont think this gets to your real question which is how to get your dreams to surface, but dreams are just our unconscious thoughts... so if you start journaling and doing some mindfulness work. you will begin to work on the stuff that is triggering the dreams. perhaps.