Thanks for all the replies. H and I started talking about adoption, so now I'm really not sure what I want to do. The IVF is really expensive, and I've used all of my insurance. We do have enough in savings that we could pay for it, but there is no guarantee that it is going to work. I would feel bad if we spent that much money and not get pregnant, or miscarry again. I'm torn though because I would really like to experience a pregnancy and having my own biological child. If I knew that the IVF would be successful, then I would do it, but I don't know if I could handle the grief of another possible miscarriage or the disappointment if the IVF didn't work at all. If we do adopt, we would do it through foster care. Thinking of all the kids in foster care that want and need to be adopted breaks my heart. I know I could provide them. We would look at adopting a sibling group, and we are ok with kids with disabilities, as long as they can walk, since our house is not set up for a wheel chair. I just wish I knew what to do. This uncertanty is really stressing me out.