I've had a T in the past that didn't pay any attention to the Si'ing. His thought on it was that if he doesn't say anything about it and ignored it that it wouldn't happen as much. Kind of like it wouldn't happen as much if he didn't make a big issue of it. It really didn't make a difference in how often the Si happened, it just made it so that I hid it from him. Which didn't help anything. I just ended up hiding more things from him. So our therapy together really didn't go as far as I thought it could of.

For the T I have now I sign a contract. But in the contract I let him know if it's happened. So if it happens I'll make contact with him and let him know things are bad enough that the Si is happening. My T's thinking I have now is that it's a way of coping. I haven't learned yet how to cope well enough yet to not Si and we work at changing that. Since I'm not having to hide this, it's made for a more open and trusting therapy relationship.

I understand that for some T's Si'ing is just not tolerated. But I think that it's an issue that needs to be worked on in T. If it's a big enough issue for you and something you want to change and work on I think it needs to be openly talked about between you and your T. Think you have to let your T know that this is an important issue for you and something not to me ignored. Because isn't this why we are in therapy for in the first place, because of things like Si?

This is just my thought on this issue.