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Originally Posted by tractionbeam0610
I am sorry this happened to you...I thought Ts were TRAINED to deal with this kind of thing (in fact, I have been told they have been) and not "run for the hills." Therapy should be a safe place to say whatever you are feeling. I KNOW she is not the first and only T to be told that, and I wish she would have been able to work through your feelings with you. Sending hugs and so sorry for your pain...  |
It wasn't very safe with her, I mean I loved her sooo much BUT she was never very nice to me. It always felt like she was afraid of something. When I needed her she would distance herself, I know its called self care but she really wasn't there when I needed her, I told her how I was severely sui towards the end and she terminated me next session. Thanks for the understanding tractionbeam. I blame myself for all of this but deep down I know that she should have been able to handle this and not run from it.
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Originally Posted by Syra
I totally understand wishing she had said "Come back and let's try again." I'm struggling here because I really want to support you. I know how hard it is. And I don't want to say, yea, same thing happened to me, and guess what her response was; it's even worse. Having said that helps me get back to you.
I understand it how it feels good that she acknowledged you, and responded to you. I wished that for a long time. I wonder if it it feels bad because the rest of her is distancing again - at the same time she responds. It seems kind of a confusing to me? Although it does seem it could be better than no response at all? Is it?
BTW, I don't think it's the client's job NOT to be attached, obsessed, in love, neurotic, panicky, needy. I realize that can happen, and it's good to recognize what were are doing. But that's what therapists are for and it happens all the time. NOthing you have said sounds really strange or unusual. Is there something more?
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No, there is nothing more. The feelings were really intense though and maybe she was scared and I know at the start she really cared. She always did that- send me mixed signals, one minute she would text and the next minute she would be giving out to me for replying or texting her.
Towards the end, she would not answer my calls or texts and I didn't send her many, mostly only replies for schedule changes and once I was having an emergency and nothing, she never replied , she was always distancing and sending mixed messages and I thought I was going crazy with her.