Hi Raj.

That is awful! I am so sorry to hear that this happened to her. Please know she (and you) are in my prayers.

I know that a lack of intimacy must be frustrating, and I appreciate your perspective, but understand what she just went through. Someone who she is supposed to be able to trust just committed one of the most grievous abuses of that trust that is possible to commit, and did it in a manner that links sexuality to the trauma. Right now, sex is going to be the last thing on her mind...it's going to be emotionally painful, and it's going to remind her of the abuse. She is going to need time before she can fully disassociate sex and abuse, which is a rather hard thing to do.

You need to be supportive of her right now. That is the best thing you can do for her. While I know it's frustrating, and I know you must miss what you had, venting your frustration to her is only going to make her feel much worse. Be there for her, and help her work through this, and be patient as she recovers. That is the best you can do for her.

Please know I am praying for you both, and I hope things work out for the best.

Hugs,
Harley