Being alone with your husband away for long hours is hard enough if you have family near. If you have always been close to your family and are now seperated from their support is bound to put a strain on both you and your marriage.

You mentioned that you have tried to talk to your husband but he just seems irritated. Have you come right out and told him that you are having difficulty with your lifestyle and feel depressed? Sometimes we hint at things for fear of causing a problem or upsetting the balance if we are completely honest.

Medical schools are full of divorced students for the reasons that you have put down. One spouse is uprooted for a period of years and away from the support of their family and friends. They feel isolated, alone and depressed. After a while it starts to eat at the marriage, and it falls apart. Although your husband is not in school, the effect is the same. Something has to give. Either he is going to have to meet you halfway or you are going to have problems.

Have you considered getting a part time job for yourself, just to get you out of the confines of the trailer? Staying in that small space with nothing to do and no friends is no better than a prison.

I don't know your husband, so can't tell you whether it would be better to seek counselling for the both or you and then tell him, or talk to him about going to counselling together and then looking. If the job your husband had was a finite period, it would probably be easier to take, but if this is going to go on, you really need to get help.

Please find a way of getting yourself out of the situation, either by getting a part time job, or involved in a church group, counselling, something. Can you get to a phone and call your family? If you can, start there and see if they can give you some advice based on what they know of you and your husband. Your mental health and your marriage are both at stake.

keep coming to the forum. At least there are people here who will communicate with you and understand. Its not the same as in the flesh, but its a lot better than nothing.

Sam2