Hey you guys have become my life line to what is normal for sexual activities and behaviors.

I have run across an issue. My H and I have not been getting along. We've been doing T. It is finially helping. I take zoloft that kills my sex drive. and I'm 38 yr old.

Me and my H fienially got to have more then 30 secound, durring commercials, while the kids were occupied, SEX. Being that we have had pretty bad issues in our relationship, I have not been real happy about having sex w/ my H. It has been kinda of a just putting out to take care of H's needs.

Well getting along has done wonders. We had sex and it was MARVILIOUS. I have not had sex and O's with my H in maybe a year. Sex yes, O's w/ him no. O's alone yes. But here is the issue, I always have this horrible cramping for a few days after we have sex if I have O's. I had forgotten about how badly that hurt. Does this happen to anyone else?

I don't know if it is an age thing, if it is a usage of different muscles, if it is the time that is spent trying to get to the O. It doesn't cause discomfort solo. Just curious. Any input would be helpful.