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Originally Posted by BLUEDOVE
So sorry you have had to suffer such terrible abuse. Sannah is right--their is a thing called
"Auditory Imprints";which is when the negative
stuff we heard towards us becomes so deeply
imprinted in the child's mind,that the child later
thinks it originates from him/herself!
So knowing this,you can now DROP IT and start to
be kind to yourself--that negativity does not
belong to you. I was impressed with your creative talents (I draw+paint too),so please
fight to make the most of them,and fight for the
child you once were--you are all she's got.
I shall say a prayer for you.
God Bless,
BLUEDOVE.
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Thank you very much for your answer!
I think this is what happened to me, because for a long time, I could hear those negative voices, or I would feel bad and if I dug deeper then I would find some negative remark behind it, but I did not know who they belonged to, they has just been there since I can recall.
I've started to read psychology, psychiatry books, and self-analyze using my limited ways and knowledge and I realized it was from them.
I also think my mother feels deeply shamed and that is a burden she has carried all her life, from previous generations as well.
When it comes to my father, the lack of self esteem he has caused me, I believe comes from his negative and demeaning attitude towards anyone that is different or any ideas that are not like his. I live with him now and I dislike his presence, because it makes me feel tensed. I wish I could open up to him, because I don't like to be alone in the house, but I know what follows if I do that: more put downs or demeaning attitudes, more hurting and unavailabilty from him. I've had enough and I don't feel like having that anymore!
He interrupts me when I talk, starts talking his own stories over mine, give no importance to my stories, or my feelings. I can't stand to have a discussion with him because of this, because it turns into a monologue about how great he was in his lifetime.
I want to get rid of those voices and help the little girl inside me, help her grow up, because right now, even if I am an adult, I still feel like a child many times.
I don't know what to do from here. I feel like I am fighting a dragon (auditory imprints) with a poking stick (think positive). The voices are so powerful and hateful that I feel I am going to be blown away to bits physically, that they will make me vanish from existence.
I want to defeat all this and reclaim my life back!