well i'm 52 with a 22 yr old son. i never wanted children as i saw my mother raise 13 of us, i was the second oldest. you would not believe the crap we handed her. she was 19 when she started having kids, she claims we were all wanted, yea right, after my sister the eldest and i you think she would have given up then. it was no big deal every time she would announce her next babies. if i thought we were bad, then i don't know what you would call my brothers and sisters. devil children i suppose ha ha. our punishments were harsh, but livable, i more than once tried to run away, but a 5 year old cant beat a grown man in a race i learned.all of that was to prepare you for the thoughts like having to discipline your child, not sleeping in anymore, no drinking beer,although we do have alcoholics in the family too, and just things like who is going to change the baby's diapers etc...taking a car trip or going to a restaurant or even shopping you'll be dragging around this thing or things on your legs called kids. screaming in the middle of who knows where, at what unknown time.then the fights and how to control them. there is no one book on how to be a true parent although you can read Parenting magazine in the GYN office or dentists or doctors room,of which you'll have to have the finances for. i say these things so you will decide knowledgably before you have children. there were great times too but for me it was basically lonely even though i had so many brothers and sisters, that i now know more about life and can just show in a few sentences what your dealing with. Those other mothers you see on the playground probably wish to God they didn't have so many responsibilities, although that doesn't mean they don't want them, they could probably use a break!
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