Oh gosh -- I've been there, and I too waiting until my daughter graduated from high school. I was married for 26 years before I divorced. Mine was also controlling & emotionally/mentally abusive. Even if I went to visit my mother, he would call to see if I was there -- every single time for 26 yrs. He needed to know TO THE PENNY what I spent, whether it was on groceries, for Christmas, birthdays, etc. Of course I wasn't allowed "spending money."

Have you two tried marriage counseling? Would your husband go? Mine went, but at the first visit, the therapist told him he was too controlling, and he got up and left. He never went back. I kept going tho.

If you can get your husband to go, perhaps you can save the marriage, but at this point, it sounds like you're not willing to save it. Is that true? If you're not, you can leave now, and either take your daughter with you and still let her graduate from the same school or leave her with her Dad -- which I doubt you want to do.

Are finances the problem? Do you have a checking account in both your names? You do know that you are entitled to 1/2 of anything that is in both your names. So you COULD withdraw 1/2 of any monies in the accounts that have both your names on them. You could probably take more, but it's not advisable.

Anyway -- I wish you the very best. Let us know what happens. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee