Hi Adam,

You've described your wife as being sort of 'tomboyish' and growing up with brothers in other posts. Also, that she'd emotionally unavailable, while you are emotionally sensitive. You've tried talking with her about various marriage related things and she seems indifferent. Its hard waking up to. I had a similar experience with my ex. It doesnt sound like she's in this with you anymore. The best advice I can give is that you be your own friend right now. Dont do anything without thinking it through and dont say things you may regret later (like I did). You know how it ought to be and it isnt that.

I wouldnt go so far as advising a breakup. But, it sounds like you are in this marriage alone right now. That hurts.