Adam, I'm sorry you have to be subjected to this. It's clear that you love your wife and then to have her do this is blatantly insensitive to you, as her husband. I'm dealing with a similar situation with my husband only it's not only an emotional relationship it's also a sexual relationship. He is extremely obvious about it and knows that I am aware of it.Eventually everything come's with a conclusion. I hope you are able to talk to your Doc about this when you see him. It's an ongoing conversation for me.
Warm Thoughts to you.