Well, I would go so far as to say a breakup is called for if she can't get control of her sexual life. That's just one part of her lack of control. She's the one who needs help, in my view. I agree with Leed's advice about staying with your therapist, but I'd also recommend that you consider separation, at least, in an effort to get her to clean up her act.

If she can't or won't, then I'd go for divorce. Life is too long to have to continue to live the way you are. You deserve to have a healthy, loving, and supportive realtionship in your life, not one that is dragging you through virtual hell.

I don't believe in thoughtless and random divorce, but I also don't believe that vows that are broken, abused, and disregarded should be part of a solid relationship; in fact, they just aren't.

We should all have a positive, calm, and safe environment around us. Make some strong, manly decisions about what you will and won't have in your life if you are to be a companion and loved one of another.

Take care of yourself first now.