That is a very good point, that sometimes people forget to consider when dealing with the mentally ill. It should be kept in mind mentally ill people have their own needs and wants to, what their parent might want for them isn't necessarily what they'd want for them-self. I hate the idea some people with mental illness end up getting treated as though they have no preference as to what happens to them. I think they sometimes forget the persons family is not the only one affected by the illness.