i have to agree. I would imagine he knew she was coming. And if he DIDN'T know, he owes it to you to TELL you that she came out there to "be with him." Which makes me want to know WHY she felt she had to "be there with him" during his time of grief??? SHE isn't his girlfriend, YOU are!! What is she trying to pull here? Doesn't she know her place? If she doesn't, it's high time HE told her so!!! And if he won't, then perhaps you'd better tell him he can go BACK to her.

I wouldn't stay in this triangle any longer if this is the way it's going to be. It sure sounds fishy to me. Sorry, but something's not right. Hugs, Lee