hi cougmom

the main thing to remember is kids with adhd forget things within seconds, especially the younger they are. so when you need her attention make sure there's no distractions like television. bend down to her eye level and gain and keep eye contact. give her one instruction at a time. i.e. it's no good saying go clean your room. you'd have to say the clothes need picking up off the floor, then when that's done you'd have to say the toys need putting away. if you find she's forgotten part ways thru a task what she's supposed to be doing, a gentle reminder goes a long way.

it's really important, despite the frustration, to show gentleness and patience and to be very consistent with routine as much as is practical.

i know it's hard but try to keep in mind that she's not trying to frustrate you on purpose, it's genuinely difficult for her brain to retain information or request for any length of time.

you don't say how old your daughter is but i have a son with adhd plus aspergers and tourettes, so if you have any specific questions please feel free to pm or em me.