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Old Mar 05, 2013, 04:51 PM
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Being in agreement on parenting styles is great, but you also need to view the bf as a hypothetical live-out co-parenting partner and check whether he would be cooperative in that role. Since 50% of marriages end, your thinking of how the two of you would parent the child in a live-in arrangement takes care of only one half of the issue. You cannot close your eyes on the other half. It is myopic.
And, the 50% occupied by the separations would not be in any way less than the 50% occupied by ongoing, unbroken marriages. 50% = 50% and that is just what it is. So, rationally, you should devote just as much time to picturing parenting separately as you devote to picturing a family.