from your post -

you hit it on the spot that you didn't analyze the rest of her complaints, and is very important to see

I am very pscyhoanalytical and have a degree in the field. I cannot help her if I ignored her clues (and she provided a lot). So... I didn't just come up with transference and disagreeing with attachment theory to fail in helping her.

Thats it exaclty it this is a support group not a therapy group we are not allowed to analyze fellow members. we can support them and give them suggestion but we cannot practice psychoanaylsis.

I am not a profession but I also have background in psychology but here in this site this poster is not my client in real life . I dont have a right to analyze anyone or their symptoms or read transference into their posts by analyzing their post.

I can only go on her post and her words she used the word infatuated in reference to her present therapist and has the hots for him. that tells me she likes him more than a client therapist relationship on HER side. so that is what I am addressing. I am not reading into it that she is transfering her love for someone else onto the therapist because that is not what she posted and she is not posting she is accusing her therapist of being like someone else.

I can only post from my point of view and what I see is a sexual attraction. when [people are sexually attracted to someone they think that person is cute, handsome and they like that person. liking someone is being attached to then. so that is what I am addressing that she likes her therapist and thinks hes hot and yes I believe she should talk to her therapist so that her liking her therapist to this point of a sexual attraction does not interfer with her therapy.

I am not going to continue discussing this with you all I am doing is putting my opinion - not a professional analysis because her on this site professional analysis of another member and their posts is not allowed.

If you disagree hey thats fine thats part of posting on message boards is hearing about other peoples opinion you want me to look closer and anaylze the post and poster but I cant do that because that is not allowed here.

and I am not attacking you. everyone here has a right to their own points of view and people can disagree with their opinions that does not mean the person is attacking another person. but since you are percieving me as attaking you I am sorry I don't mean to come off like that. take care.