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Originally Posted by tinyrabbit
I don't mean to offend any Christians reading but I find it infuriating when people preach forgiveness. The actual quote was: "If he repents, forgive him." I don't think you have to forgive if it's not going to help you.
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Originally Posted by Pfrog
I have often thought that God (and forgiveness) is something abusers invented.
It keeps them (the abusers) from taking any responsibility for their criminal behavior while inflicting further harm on the victim by making them feel guilt and shame for not pardoning the unpardonable.
With that being said, I don't feel it is necessary to forgive ... I think that simply coming to a point of acceptance (about what was done and the impact it had) and doing our best to heal and move forward (no matter how long it takes) works just as well - if not better.
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I agree with you two especially about acceptance. I doubt neither of my abusers will ever ask for my forgiveness or admit what they did to me, so it's up to me to find acceptance without it.