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Originally Posted by hankster
Okay. Boundaries. Why would you "tell" him to change his rs status? He can think whatever he wants to. He can act however he wants. You can do whatever you want. You don't have to change your rs status just because he did. If he mentions it to you, tell him what you said here. Treat facebook like his diary??
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Boundaries as in he crossed mine. We said nothing of "let's be in a relationship" last night. I'm not ready for that after one date and I don't need all of facebook to think we're together.
Like Hamster says, take facebook out of the picture. What if he was going around telling all of his friends IRL that we're in a relationship without ever telling me first? That would be crossing boundaries and should not be taken as a compliment.
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Originally Posted by Harley47
if I had to guess, it's not so much that he didn't ask you (lol in which case, I do agree with other posters) as much as it is that he "advanced" quicker than you're ready. He elevated things into a point that you weren't aware of, so to speak. Is that where you're coming from?
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Yes, it was definitely rushing things. I made the mistake with the last guy I dated of rushing into bf/gf and I don't want to make the same mistake with him.