I definitely agree that acceptance matters more than forgiveness. I personally don't buy the argument that you have to forgive, or about not blaming anyone else for your problems - as if that's going to counteract shame and self-blame.
My T brought forgiveness up once, just to see what I thought about the concept. I said: "I think I've been forgiving everyone else all my life, and I don't think it's done me any good."
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