Dragon it was just as much my fault, if not more my fault then his. At least I will take responsibility for this sexual issue. He was verbally and emotionally abusive to me. I had no need or desire what so ever to have sex w/ him. A past rape and abuse from someone else before we got married, makes me tend to push folks away that make me feel threatened. And that was just what he was doing. Treating me like a child and bordering on abuse. So I was mostly taking care of his need, and it was a kind of simply put out to keep him faithful. Though he might not have even considered being unfaithful.

Now w/ 9 mo of this T and 6 mo of another T, we are finally at a point of getting along. And for the first time in a very long time I didn't fear my H and felt safe enough to at least be an active participant. Much to my surprise, things still work. With the delay in my meds, (stupid me for got to take them) and his pleasantries things happened to work out to my advantage as well as his. "O"

I don't know if the uncomfortable feeling and the pain was from lack of use for a long time or if something got aggravated or disturbed there or what. It was a pain that lingered for the rest of the evening and all the next day and night, much like the pain of miscarrying. Highly uncomfortable, doubling over pain.

Thanks for giving me a moment to elaborate. Thank you for sharing your opinion as well.