Adam, I am so sorry this is happening to you. I wish I had great words of wisdom or could make this go away for you. I can do neither. I can be your friend and I can listen.
You can PM me and flip out, come unglued, or break down and fall apart. I can listen and pray. You have us here at PC. Come vent, use us for a sounding board, what ever you need. Others here have help me up when I couldn't hold myself up. Let us do the same for you. If you need us let us help.

Talk to your T. This is certainly a crisis. After T take her advice. A lawyer, leave, have your wife leave, what ever. Stick w/ T and visit or call every day if you have to. One of my t's told me once that she gets paid a lot from folks. But she is pratically owned by the people who pay her. She is at there service 24/7. It's like an insurance plan you pay into it and hopefully never need it but if you do they are there for you.

Please keep talking to us Adam. PM me if you need me.