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Originally Posted by Harley47
Right now, sex is going to be the last thing on her mind...it's going to be emotionally painful, and it's going to remind her of the abuse. She is going to need time before she can fully disassociate sex and abuse, which is a rather hard thing to do.  |
That is actually not necessarily true. I have been through (fairly mild, no gang rapes) forms of sexual abuse, and it has never impacted my desire to have consensual sex. In other words, the
negative experiences that I (unfortunately) obtained due to non-consensual sex never impacted my
positive experiences with consensual sex. I have always been able to keep them entirely separate.
Hopefully, no more non-consensual sex for me from this point on.
But I can see how a negative experience with non-consensual sex can affect somebody so deeply that she would be unwilling to engage in sex with a loving partner.