Your mother has no need to know about your therapy, its your business, not hers. you have to do what is best for you to get over the trauma you suffered years ago. and if she is frightened of that, well then that isnt your problem.

and you're not airing your dirty laundry to everyone,t hat would be if you told every person you ever met. which you're not. she'd rather forget the situation and continue to worship him. it doesnt mean you are not allowed to heal from this.

so continue to build that relationship, but just dont tell her yet about the therapy, she has no need to know. thats all you need to remember.

take care and i hope to speak soon

simon