If you can, it's better to leave with your daughter than to stay. You have to consider the tole this could be taking on her as well. I am very sensitive to this subject. When growing up, my mom would always say, "when she leaves the house I can finally leave and be happy". She made me feel like I was the cause of a lot of the problems.... I'm not saying you're doing this. I feel your pain. I'm just saying....I hope maybe I threw in something to think about. I'm not being very helpful today....