Therapy is a process, for me, not a goal.

I ran into this back around 1992; I was trying to get counseling with a woman at this r*pe counseling place (when it was still open) and she asked me "what is your goal, Carol?" I told her I had no idea. I said, "I am here because I keep getting into bad situations with men." She said again, "What is your *goal*?" And I told her I really didn't know; she needed to help me figure that out. She goes, "I can't help you then." And she told me not to come back.

I am not discouraging anyone. I am just saying that this was a stumbling block for me on the inside and the outside. I never had any goals in my life growing up or as an adult; I just had to survive.

for the first time I have some short-term goals: To not be so afraid to go out and do things like shop for shoes. To say hello first. and so on.

But I did not have any before and that used to hang me up in therapy.

My long term goal (one of them) is to either be okay alone or not tolerate any more bad situations with men (or with people for that matter).
Carol