In the beginning, my T definitely did meet some of my emotional needs. While I was working through the experience of not having had a mom and not having had love or care growing up, T offered me some maternal nurturing. She taught me what that kind of a relationship would have been like and how to express warmth and affection. Now, I have people in my RL who give me those things, so I no longer need as much from T. She helped me grow and it still makes me feel safe to know that if a rupture happens in my RL relationships, I still have a soft place to land & reboot with T. So, I guess my view is that T can help meet needs as long as the aim is for the client to learn how to eventually get those needs in RL. It can be part of the growing process.

So, geez, I don't think it's pathetic! I think it's part of learning and healing and getting the support we need. I was exactly where you are not to long ago. And, on the upside, being there now does not mean you will be there forever. It's just part of the process.