Just give her some blueberries.
My therapist had serious blueberry teeth (and lips) the other day. Despite my dysphoria, I couldn't help but laugh. A lot. Which I almost never do in session.
I haven't idealized her (I don't think), but it still helps me to see her minor pratfalls because she models good behaviors. Like, when I told her that her mouth was all messed up, she laughed too and thanked me for letting her know, all the while making funny faces so that I would laugh even more. I know it's stupid, but I don't think I would have been so light-hearted if I had been the one with blueberry teeth. I would have felt embarrassed and beat myself up over it, using it as Exhibit Z that I'm just no good. So it is good for me to see that my therapist can be a sloppy person just like me, despite her elegant and fancy ways.
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Originally Posted by precious things
Not to hijack a thread but are we in therapy to have our needs met? Understood- yes. but are we supposed to use the therapeutic relationship to fulfill loneliness or emptiness? I don't know about that one.
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I guess it depends on why you're in therapy and how deep your needs are. If the point is to get to a healed state where you can meet all your needs yourself, then therapy should be seen as a vehicle to get you there. But if therapy is there to provide support as you cope with an on-going, possibly permanent situation (i.e., there is no healed state), then I don't see why therapy can't be a surrogate whatever-you-need, as long as its all professional and appropriately boundaried. Just IMHO.