Your guy sounds rather like he's behaving rather passive aggressively. I think you should consider that, for a moment. The fact that he doesn't talk and doesn't express his needs could be a form of aggression. He is acting aggressively and wrestling with you. He doesn't know how to communicate with words, so he uses physicality instead. That can be very dangerous. Please keep yourself safe!

I can certainly sympathize with your feelings of loneliness in the relationship. It takes two people to communicate, and if one person doesn't want to communicate, even the most herculean efforts on the part of the other party will end in failure. There is no benefit in blaming yourself.

If you feel responsible for something going amiss in the relationship, then perhaps you should communicate that to your boyfriend. Maybe you shouldn't have threatened to rip up the picture that is clearly dear to him. However, that is no reason for you to have been pushed! There seems to be a lack of emotional maturity, here.

I'm concerned that you want to protect your boyfriend from harm that may come to him from his pushing you. He could take that as an invitation to mistreat you further. Often people will treat others as poorly as they can get away with.

Take care of yourself and try not to be so hard on yourself. What he did wasn't right, no matter if you played any part in it or not!