Okay I hope it's okay to express this, I find that the fact that your older son was showing emotion over the chickens is so telling. This is the child that you have tried to explain for months. What a sensitive child! I agree again (from past posts!) that you cannot give up on this child.

I'm sorry Blue, for all that you are going through. No words, I just want it to be better!

Many hugs!
Bluemountains