Enjoyed reading both your arguments. Very well written. Love to read others' interpretations of the meanings of psych terms and how they can be applied to a specific scenario; it gives one a broader scope to look through when learning about one's illness, which I definitely require, considering I am BPD and tend to see things in black and white.
Too bad, however, you both feel you are attacking each other.
Could you both be doing what you are discussing, if you are feeling this way?
Just curious...
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