Hi Kitz. Are you in India or living elsewhere? I ask because where you are living makes a big difference (as I'm sure you know) in many things--first regarding available help resources, but also in all kinds of cultural and other issues. The challenges facing expatriates can make life a lot different from living in one's own country.

If I understand what you're saying correctly, you state that you are caught between two very big life expectations: the expectation to marry (and I assume pretty soon at your age?) and the expectation that you "achieve," or as Americans like to say, "to make something of yourself." I think those expectations are pretty universal, but the ways you feel the pressure differ from one culture to another.

In many cultures, the pressure is on the girl/woman to make the man happy, and the man is inculcated with the message that he has the right to expect happiness from the woman. Guess what? It does NOT work that way. Happiness is something that you create within yourself, with your own mind and heart and work and effort. You probably know perfectly well that an unhappy marriage is a kind of hell. We all observe those kinds of relationships, and too many of us live them.

In my opinion, you are correct in your belief that pursuing a relationship and building a career are not easy to do at the same time. So it sounds like you pursued a relationship--maybe a little bit out of desperation?--and it didn't work. Okay. So how about the career aspect? What is your education? What are your achievement options at this point? What can you do to move your life in a positive direction that way?

Try to step outside of your feelings a little bit, if you can, and educate us (or me) about what your path options look like where you are now. Perhaps if you can tell us/me the story of what it's like where you are, you will see some ideas or plans begin to form.