Not knowing much about the details, as the previous poster mentioned, it's difficult to assess the situation. I would suggest that you seek a counselor, (psychologist), for 3 or 4 sessions, then see how you feel and consider whatever options you discuss with your counselor. Perhaps one will be to seek marital therapy.

I am divorcing after a 20 year marriage. In my case, my husbands behavior along with a "Jeckyl & Hyde personality was obviously making my bipolar condition, (diagnosed 2007,) unstable, along with his anger, rage, and control issues. In 20 years we had marital counseling more than once...

I have a pdoc who graciously agreed to see both of us for a few sessions. After that, I returned to my individual sessions and he scheduled me for more frequent appointments, (which I needed).

After much thought, I consulted my attorney and served my husband divorce papers. Before I did that, I had literally begged my husband for a brief separation of 4 to 6 weeks to give both of us a break and space to think things through. He had a place to go (his bachelor son's home). Then I bargained---3 weeks, 2 weeks, etc. He refused. ( I had nowhere to go, or I would have gone...). All I was asking for was a separation. It MAY have saved the marriage but again he would not compromise. He is now living at his son's and I am living in our home and are in the divorce process.

I admit, I've had my weak moments, but I read over the journals I kept about our interactions and I don't want to live that way. Arguments everyday...verbal, emotional, psychological abuse, etc.

The other day, (he was gone Sept.), I was thinking that I have not heard anyone raise their voice to me, slam doors, curse, be sarcastic and mocking, issue ultimatums, name call, etc. This divorce process is uber stressful, but there is an end to it. I am 58. I resolved that I would like to live what life remains in happiness and peace and I can't do that anymore in this marriage.