My sister says "I don't know what to tell you" - she's playing it safe this time.
My other sister is stage 4 BC.
SO does support, but he doesn't want to be sole provider. I believe he learned this from his father. His ex cheated on him big time and I'm sure even 21 years later he is still traumatized from it. He says he loves me and will help me, but I'm not sure he really knows how to help. He won't get counseling for himself, says he doesn't need it (but agrees I do ... We tried it once and it went very badly). I went years ago with success, but restarting recently didn't go as well ... I will admit I'm not willing to face the truth. I don't want leaving to be the solution ... I love him and our dog (our cat he can do without). We have a lot of "stuff" a which leads me to what I think may be another layer of problem (and probably belongs in another post)

I agree, this is a big mess and no doubt multi-layered. Can't go anywhere without employment.