Thank you both. yes I do at times bring my psychological education and knowledge into my posts and replys but at the same time I rely specifically on the persons words of their main question and not analyze deeper into it as in what is behind that behavior. this is a support group not a therapy group so I feel its not my job to psychoanalyze here.

But above that I am glad you both liked the way wwe were taking care of our disagreement. Which is why I continued for a bit with those posts. people not involved with the situations sometimes get upset when disagreements here happen and feel like the site, the people in the disagreement are attacking each other and so on. so when this differences of p[oint of view - me posting from educated but not pacticing therapy on the poster point of view and the other replyer posting from a professional therapy point of view of analyzing and was not attacking the original poster I chose to continue debating a bit to show people here an example of how people with different oppinion and posting styles can discuss things without pulling name calling and personal attacks into in. When the other replyer posted about feeling attacked I decided its time to pull out of that debate by agreeing to disagree because this is a support group. debates are great and allowed but are not right when they turn to the people involved starting feeling attacked. I was and am not feeling attached but since the other replyer brought it up that may or may not be what he/she is feeling.

So On my end in my opinion the debate is over I agree to disagree and now its time to get back to the orignal poster who in two days has to meet with her therapist who she has the hots for and would like suggestions of what to do and say at that appointment on monday...

If I was brainstorming this from the idea that it is my situation here are my options based on how I do things -

I can write what I am feeling out and then tell my therapist
I can write what I am feeling out and then hand my therapist the paper.
I can print off this thread and give it to my therapist.
I can walk in and request a new therapist and walk right back out the door.
I can request a new therapist and then talk about why I want a new therapist.

I could get a shoe box, glue, construction paper, and make a diarama depicting my feelings

this last one I actually did when I had a sexual attraction to a therapist. I mad a scene inside a shoe box of the therapy office, me sitting on the couch and the therapist in the chair at the desk which clearly shows I know what the relationship is really like and about, the balloons hanging betwween us in the air was the actual conversations pointing to the person that was saying them and the balloons pointing to my head behind be were holding hearts and so on.

The therapist saw my art therapy project and started laughing becasue that therapist had never seen this approach to that issue before and then we discussed the options together of whether or not the two of us could and wanted to remain a therapy team. it was a great conversation and the diarama lighted the mood so that we could talk about it.

We decided to get a new therapist on of my same gender because I am not gay or a lesbian. that way I will not keep having sexual attractions to my therapists.

I still have contact with that therapist for he was the one and only male therapist that I liked let alone fell in love with. and that therapist still has the diarama on display in the office and he says in his words -

"it has helped many abuse survivors talk about the attachment issue before they even start experiencing it. Thanks to your diarama I can now hold on to my caseload of female clients. There was a time when I thought I had some contagious desease because a majority of my female clents whould start experiencing problems and want a new therapist. Now they see the diarama and the issue of client therapist relationship and a client building an appropiate attachment to me is right out there in the open right from the first session."