Hello,
I was molested by my father when I was a child and my family was forced to continue to live with him. Now I am 21 and I continue to live with the same household, my mom is desperately seeking a way to divorce as civilly as possible to realistically be able to support my other three siblings. However, my main issue now is that I have been in a relationship with someone for a year. He does not know about this, most people do not know what happened. He has a history of anxiety and depression and I fear that telling him may do more harm then good. I feel he deserves to know. We have also abstained from sex so far and I fear that it would change once he knows or he might be very upset that he did not know sooner and take it as a lack of trust. I love him and we are considering getting married in the future. I considered speaking to his counselor about the matter but I fear it may jeopardize my family legally and it is not the best time to have a legal interaction. I am prepared for the worst and will understand if he does not want to continue a relationship although I highly doubt that will be his reaction; I mostly fear he will be very irate towards my parents and want to protect me. I just don't want to hurt him and use the best timing possible.

Sorry, it's a long post but thank you for reading.