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Mar 07, 2013, 10:50 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2010
Location: Indy
Posts: 43,373
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That's probably a lot of the problem is I have been a doormat. I grew up being told nothing I wanted or had to say hell ANYTHING that had anything to do with me was not important. So when that is all you've ever known you take it into a relationship with you.
Therapy has taught me to stand up for myself more. That it is ok for me to have things, wants and needs. So in a way I guess it isn't fair that after 5 years together I say year 6 is gonna be different. I started putting my foot down on things and not just giving in. He has had some world class meltdowns over not always getting his way.
We've tried marriage counseling and I can get him to go for awhile but as soon as we hit a smooth patch then he thinks we don't need it anymore.
This morning I went home and told him you can pick where we eat or you can pick our activity. Then I will pick the other and that is the best compromise I can come up with. Surprisingly he said that was a good idea and he wanted to pick the activity. I was all geared up for a fight and had hackles raised and then he goes and is reasonable. I will never understand that man. 
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