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Originally Posted by misskeena
Maranara, you don't have to help; it's okay.
Sometimes when I read this response from you I get the impression that you feel as though if you don't help you are letting us down. This is not true. We like you even if you didn't feel you could respond for a while. Being social--even online--takes emotional energy that sometimes we just don't have. It's okay if you need to store up energy for yourself.   |
This is something I've come to realize quite recently and you kinda hit it Keena. I taught school for close to 20 years. I think I did it initially because I never felt like much of a help at home. Teaching and helping is part of my very fragile sense of identity, and I'm no longer teaching so part of my identity was ripped from me. I'm using PC as a way of trying to retain some of that. When I can help and make a difference, it makes me feel good and confident. When I can't or when the emotional tole becomes too much, it sends me in to a downward spiral. Any suggestions would be helpful. Maybe I need to start a thread.