In a way, I'm very black and white because I believe that the right thing to do is always obvious. I have never had any difficulty determining this.

Problem is, there are a lot of right things that I could be doing now that I'm simply not, but neither am I doing anything wrong. I live in gray, because I can't live a life prostrating myself to only ever doing the right thing. I just avoid the wrong.

One thing that I believe is absolutely right: Not forcing others to your moral standards. I can do my thing my way and I don't insist that people act, think, or feel the way I do. People are free to make their own judgements, as long as they don't threaten the well being of others.

I believe the well being of others/everyone is the ultimate of virtues. This is what allows me to perceive actions as black or white, because it is one question of whether something helps or harms. How this obtained is diluted in grays, but the core aim is all the same.